80/20 Rule of Feminity: How To Speak

I was encouraged to put down some thoughts which combined other articles into one.
Hence the 80/20 rule of femininity: How To Speak

The 80%
Don't curse: For every f bomb dropped, intelligence is lowered. As it was overheard, "She has a very limited vocabulary."  As first interactions hinge on wishing others to know of one's intellect, leave colorful metaphors out.  Don't dominate the conversation: As one can find themselves a fascinating subject to speak on, what may be missed and not realize is it climaxes into a boring one sided conversation causing painful ear throbs. Allow others to perceive consideration and a chance to exhibit.Don't stay on phone: When in the company of one person or group put down the phone, place it on vibrate or turn off. Some business post signs warning they will not not engage with patrons on their phone, but look to the next person eagerly waiting. Have limited or no social media: If one wants to converse with the world, one need…

How To Receive A FREE FACIAL ~ Perhaps For Life

Recently, I was treated to spa services. 
It was a wonderful. The young lady sat in a rolling chair which was near my head and lathered such wonderful smells and lotions onto my face while steam opened my pores. Relaxing music was pipped in and played gently in the background. 

Once done, I felt like liquid which could have been poured into the car for the ride home. 
Once back into reality and my duty of home, I was in the kitchen sitting for a quick rest waiting for the bell on the oven for coconut biscuits. While at my laptop, I received an email reminding me to come back for a follow up treatment. Though I dreamed what the next trip was to be like, begin to wonder if this could be duplicated at home. 

Though the weather outside had been frightful, the answer hit me as I was drawing water into the sink. 

~Hot water~
 As the steam rose and hit my senses I begin to take note which chores are done required steam. 

Washing dishes:

Though it might sound a bit old fashion, steam which comes up f…

Update: On How Not To Troll~

Hey there virtual viewers!
 Welcome to an update on 80/20 trolling. 
As some individuals never learn, go away, or choose to remain in the dark due to lack of little grey matter, continue at warp speed down a one way street. Even after weeks of research and an article written with a goose quill pen dipped in venom on How To Troll, clearly the points don't matter and missed in the direction of trolling.

~Like dropping crumbs of bread the crows picked up and now resorting to whole loaves of bread.~
(when I see a new follower)

Part 1
~attempt to scare~ Never set up an account to follow someone then fail to put a name and doing the same on accounts one's affection is on because one does not want an alpha male follow them back.

 ~Psst, we know it is a bother to make one work harder~
In fact, glancing at the above picture, one looks forward to anonymous followers.

Part 2
~attempt to shame~
At best it gives new ammunition to laugh at sterile ways and attempts to convey mental injury about…

How To Eat Chocolate

~Be informed not influenced~
We all are targeted to become influenced.
My husband placed it into this context.  If someone is separating you from your money, be wary.
 I wondered if it was allot like eating chocolate. 

As women, when the chocolate trigger hits, sometimes it hits hard and we don't know why. The season, a reason, time of day, time of month, frustration or just because. 
At times chocolate seems to sooth the savage beast by first initial bite. It can not be explained as our features change profoundly and exquisitely to a temporal happy place. Nothing can take away that first taste!

It also connects with a first purchase of something to own. It feels so good we own it, but like most good feelings, fly away to higher ground and taller trees. The happy thought now gone and seeking the next high begins.

Stop and reflect.
We should have refine thoughts on what needs and wants are, and not ruled by wants as others will influence us to purchase wants AS needs. 
~~A fun way of lookin…

Sustainability of the Hoidays~ Free to $$$

The holidays begin to creep up and bloom when I was not looking... actually, allot of fun and funny videos have been presenting itself on YouTube for holiday ideas. 
~some reasonable and very lux items for this season~

Gifts of time: 
Some may not believe time is money, but it is. Here is an idea which was stumbled on years back. One lady made COUPONS OF TIME for her family and friends on lovely printer paper she had. Here are beautiful examples:
 a meal stop over in a coffee shop (her treat) her famous desserts a lovely plant/flowers from her garden  a concert at a local park baby sitting service light cleaning and caring (if sick) vacation sitting for pet/s driver in case a vehicle is needed. 

Gifts of $25 or less:
From gifts of time to practical items, this is a good place to start if needing to make a purchase for female co-workers, secret sis or good friend. Links are provided, though some maybe sold out. Shop online or call for availability before heading out!!
fuzzy socks- who d…

Be Cloaked in Greatness

From the Sift Twice Files:

From time to time, I enjoy listening to the cadence of Ms. Gloria Starr. 
Ms. Gloria Starr is a etiquette expert located on YouTube. Ms. Starr has been around the world many times over in teaching people elegant ways in which to speak, their body language to others, and tonality. 
Today, she spoke quickly and effectively on being cloaked in greatness. 

Her talk was about being your best dressed when out and about, at work, and I would even extend to home.
As a homemaker with a dress code, (as far as dress codes goes) there is none. Of course one would not wear a ball gown to do dishes, however, I concede her point of looking your best. One still opens the door to accept packages, or others looking for lost animals, leaflets of functions around the neighborhood, or perhaps sweeping the porch while garbage men pick up curbside.

Yes, I do believe it is important to dress for your home and be cloaked in greatness. Even as I write have on a red top al…

80/20 Ground Rules of Trolling...

The 80%
Remaining anonymous: Keep account(s) more than a few days, weeks or months old. This helps avoid administration looking into new accounts, but it's harder going down the rabbit hole when one signs up during peak season. Point two, abstain from spirits when doing this, or taking this activity outside and away from the net. One is never clever when one drink drunk nor having to plead to a judge for repeated offenses.

Plan and plot. Omit ones own name, things the victim likes or for heaven's sake, family member names. The point of the mission is to remain under the radar. It is important for this indulgence to remain secret and a one sided fantasy relationship.

Patterns of speech: Don't attack in the same manner one can easily identify a pattern. When engaged (as a troll) support it with supplemental humor and self amusement.

Don't delete an account only to attack another day in the same way on a contrasting account! It is like watching an old show no one likes or e…

Giving To Family First

Today, I remembered an interesting insight read many years ago about giving to family first. It came in the form of an article a mom wrote.

A mother was in her kitchen baking cookies for an upcoming function. One of their sons wandered into the kitchen and begin to ask what the cookies were for and if he could have one. Her answer surprised him when he found out the cookies were going else where. "Where's ours?" he asked looking at his mother. "There are none." Came the answer as she retrieved another hot batch from the oven. The son grew serious, stood in front of his mother, and asked a stern question. " Why would you think of others before thinking of our family first?" Surprised, the mother became angry at such a question, but upon further reflection decided he was right. 
Why should one allow others to use resources so freely? Didn't the husband work hard for his money? Did his hard work and pay allow one to go and make purchases of items to…

*Rededication to Home Made Goodness*

Recently, I have rededicating myself to homemaking. 
I begin by getting up early, get ready, do my hair and make up, as well as having breakfast prepped the day before like pancake mix. My secret is to cook before 2:00 that day and precook items which save me time on the next day.
I do this in order to relieve my day in the afternoon.
This has been going on for about roughly a week and a half and it is working out quite nicely.

Today, I made lasagna and prepped garlic bread yesterday and broiled it, cooked the meat this morning, cut up raw veggies and saute onions. What is lacking is to cook the noodles this afternoon, grate cheese, place together in a baking dish and pop in oven.

It leaves a small amount of clean up for my crew.

I notice it helps with making a menu out on Sunday night after cleaning and my language can become flowery on garden fresh this, or veggie melody that, or buttermilk pan-grilled pancakes, or the newest recipe found, carbonated biscuits from a cookbook purch…

80/20 Rules of Femininity: What To Keep In One's Purse (updated 10/22/19)

I do enjoy a good purse.
 In my own whimsically nature shun designer purses and seek out small companies which invest in quality. However, it has been my unfortunate experience to witness high end purses produced cheaply. 

Back in my day of Fashion Merchandising, Chanel,  Dior along with others were something to be sought after as a holy grail and owned as a spiritual experience. In a distant era, a quality purse well made and being chosen by a lady in order to be seen was a company's pride and joy along with the special care taken with materials producing the product. 

They had a rep to protect. 

But I am wandering off topic.

~Below I focus on 80% of heavier items and 20% of lighter~

The 80%
  Sunglasses:  As prescription glasses are worn,  I adore my magnetic sunglasses. Small hinge like features fit over the glasses in a pinch and nicely into a pocket of my purse when not in use. As large sunglasses are making a come back this season (as of this writing) one may want to acquire a su…